The way a man is treating you is a direct reflection of HOW you communicate with him. When you communicate your value as a divine feminine woman a divine masculine man will respect that, adhere to that, and value you.
The way you communicate your value to a man plays a part in how he treats you.
When you’re arguing with him, disrespecting him, or trying to get him to take accountability for something he will become defensive.
it’s not your job to tell him that. It’s his therapist or coaches job. You are neither, as you can be that AND be in a healthy, loving, relationship with him at the same time.
Women who complain about a man will suffer for darn there 10 years before that man even proposes. WHY? Because she lacks DEEP SELF-LOVE and puts him first. By that point most women get tired and move on FINALLY. Other women stick around to marry the man they’ve now mommied into being a good boy. Obviously this method works… But most women love themselves too much to do it.
It’s YOUR JOB to be YOUR HIGHEST SELF and magnetize him into rising to meet YOUR LEVEL.
Here’s HOW:
For some of women who grew up in rough environments where you may have learned to protect yourself, SHUTTING TF UP may prove quite difficult to you.
Letting a man talk all kinds of crazy to you in a NO NO, and YOU WILL SNAP and let him know who TF he is talking too.. You are quick to let a man know to not play with you.
Sis, let me help you, and change your life today. THAT’S TRAUMA and lack of boundaries.
Some people see that as your inability to protect your own heart. That’s it or SOME WOMEN, not it for other women. For other women you simply don’t play, you feel tired, frustrated and become reactive.
The real problem is you lack certain BOUNDARIES. That boundary is YOUR SPACE. You are not QUICK ENOUGH to cut a man off for crossing your boundaries.
Instead of cutting him off the first time, you let him come back time and time again, to do the same thing. It’s like you keep watching this man be a disaster for some reason. For you it’s almost fascinating how d*mb men are at times.
If these boundaries became more crisp, your relationships would either end much faster or last much longer.
In this way you would finally GET MARRIED…. This is for the women who are fearful avoidants. You are the women who’ve been proposed to a few times and you’ve hit the eject on each man every time, because deep down you knew they were not good enough and feared their behaviors would ruin your marriage.
So you decided to start all over again with a new man. One thing you overlooked is that YOU ARE STILL YOU.
When it comes to marriage men are only following a woman’s energetic lead. You are GREAT at getting a man to want to propose to you. You also have no problems KEEPING a man.
Your problem is you’ve never met a man you actually WANTED TO KEEP. Or even when you TRY to want to keep him, he still keeps doing or saying b.s. that totally goes against the status of WHO you are as a woman.
While other women have a hard time getting men to propose or get in a serious relationship with them, you do it effortlessly, cause you are MOSTLY your authentic self. Yet you still allow fear to run your LOVE life.
You BELONG in the High Value Woman Masterclass to finally move past this block and marry your dream man.
There are hours worth of trainings to have you shift and see how to change your results in relationships.
The number 1 thing you can do for now is to start judging me based on if he respects your BOUNDARIES. If he doesn’t and gives you a hard time about not wanting to change and wanting to “Be HImSelf” and not allowing a woman to change him, chances are you leave him be, because you don’t want to change a man. You feel bad about the pressure.
But here is the thing. You are a diamond. Either he molds to your standards or you leave.
Do some journaling on what truly stops you from leaving sooner rather than later. Or instituting solid boundaries sooner rather than later?
Chances are, it’s your big beautiful heart. You hate breaking up. You always want to get love another chance.
Babygirl, that kind of love is reserved for a KING who actually appreciates you enough to let go of childish things.
WHY have you not felt worthy of having that KING right now? Why have you felt you had to wait and be patient?
Patience is in being patient with a men who isn’t crossing your boundaries in the first place. It’s in understanding that men do not have the same emotional capacity as you.
So therefore your patience is important. But once again, you are to be patient, speak kindly and think highly of a man who respects your boundaries.
There is no more of you dealing with men who deep down you feel are an embarrassment to you because of the way they treat you or talk to you.
You do not have to accept less from a man.
Journal on this.
WHO ARE YOU?
What are you worthy of?
What are you capable of having?